A Few Simple Ways to Deuteronomy 6:7 Daily
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Deuteronomy 6:7 exhorts parents, “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” So how do we do it? What are the benefits? And how does it connect to our kiddos hearts?
- Set the tone by having your own personal Bible time regularly
- Use times of correction to point back to the Bible
- Use Biblical words throughout the day
- Create a plan for nighly Bible time as a family
- Check out the Choose Wisely Cards by Bear & Squirrel and be sure to listen for the discount we drop during the show
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What does the Bible say about parenting? What wisdom can we gain from those who've gone before us? How can we aim to raise children into adults who repent and follow Christ? And honestly, what do we practically do when we wake up tomorrow? We're Charlie and Kristina Matz. We're on a journey to seek answers to those questions.
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Speaker 3 (01:13):
Today we're talking about what it practically looks like to model the command of Deuteronomy six seven in our homes. This passage exhorts parents, you shall teach them God's commandments diligently to your children. And she'll talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk, by the way, and when you lie down and when you rise. So how do we do it? What are the benefits and how does it connect to our kiddos? Hearts. But first one curious thing.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
So Charlie, what did you want to be when you grew up? When you were in high school? I wanted to be a rapper. Now did you just like dream about this while you were home or did you actually take practical steps in your high school to become a world renowned rapper?
Speaker 3 (01:59):
One surprise you asked that question. It's almost like you know the answer. I took a lot of steps. I wrote, wrote songs in my free time. I got to the point where I was doing shows and I even got the chance during my senior year to wrap one of my songs at a high school dance.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
Did it, did it just go off like when you did that?
Speaker 3 (02:21):
It did. I stood up on one of the speakers. I got everybody into it. It was actually pretty amazing. I wasn't saved at the time, so like I really thought, you know, it was all about me and so that's probably why it didn't work out.
Speaker 4 (02:35):
Now did you have like a special name? Like your rapper name? Yeah, my name is Chuck nine. He's now, can I tell the story of your radio program in college? It's not related to rapping but, but it's related to your rapper name. Okay. So this is one of my favorite things about Charlie's past because when he was in college he was able to host a two hour nightly radio program right in the middle of the night from midnight to 2:00 AM right. So we can all do the math, right? Just two hours, midnight to two. But when he called, it was Chuck nines power hour, short nights midnight. So I still can't wrap my head around how 12 to two turned into a power hour. I guess that what's what makes it so powerful? It was like the hour. That was 120 minutes. The wanted. That extra hour is so powerful. During the carnival it was echoed into the second hour. That's one of my favorites. Well, with on that note, let's jump into this.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Deuteronomy six seven.
All right, so if we're being really honest, I have to tell you guys that when, when I first read Ted Tripp shepherding a child's heart, which I strongly recommend if you haven't read it, I thought to myself, well this seems like a big much or a bit much. When he was talking about how often we should be talking about scripture with our kids, and it wasn't because I disagree. I mean I was instantly convicted by that thought that I had, but it was honestly because I felt uncomfortable when I started to think about it. We were Christians then. We loved the Lord. And we did talk about God with our kids on a somewhat regular basis, but our days were not bathed in scripture. I mean I was honestly, I was not a picture of Deuteronomy six seven with my children when Charlie was away at work.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Yeah. And I think it's important to know that it doesn't matter where we're currently at with our families or where you might be at a, we might already be doing this really well or we might never discuss scripture at all with their children. But as you're listening to this, our desires that everyone walks away from this episode as a parent who will be making God's word a continual part of their interactions with their children. So going back to Ted trip, we actually got encouraged by him as we, we went to a parenting conference where he was teaching, cause we're, we're just big fans of Ted Tripp, Ted and Margie. And uh, so even though that that was an issue, yeah. They listening, that initial reaction to the book, we fell in love with this book and with their teaching because ultimately it was the Bible. And it was speaking to us and we wanted to follow what the Bible was saying.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
And so we really respect Ted's, Ted's leadership in that book and what he has to say. But at this parenting conference, um, he talked about the truth that God knows exactly when we will receive the truth that we are prepared to implement at each given season in our parenting journey. So he was saying rather than be discouraged with what we wish we could have started sooner, be encouraged that we're able to start it now. And something that we've noticed is that there's a momentum that you gain as a family. The more you do something like Bible time, the easier it becomes to do it.
Absolutely. So what does it look like practically for us to exhibit Deuteronomy six, seven? Our homes, uh, for us it starts with, um, the morning after breakfast when Charlie goes to work. I lead that morning family worship time or family Bible time with our kids. Um, we start by opening the Bible and reading a passage of scripture and we go through books of the Bible at a time. So we've been through multiple books in the new Testament and then we started going through the old Testament. We're an Exodus right now. Um, and what we'll do is I'll read that, we'll talk about it, we'll get into discussion. Sometimes those are longer than others. It really depends on what the topic is. Sometimes if what we're reading in the old Testament, this will happen a lot. If you're in the old Testament, there's relationship to the new Testament and what we're reading, how that was impacted by Christ and what that looks like in the new covenant.
And so I'll go back and forth and show, show them what that looks like. There's also always a passage of scripture that we're memorizing together and we'll talk through it and work to memorize it. And then throughout the day, as times of discipline or correction come up, I use the scripture that is connected to our house rules to direct the children back to what is true and what God's commandments are. And so again, if you don't have those house rules, but you want house rules for your family that are rooted in scripture, you can go to free house rules.com and you can get them anytime. I also was counseled a years ago to use biblical language when directing our children through any kind of conflict or confession throughout the day. For example, using kindness instead of nice generosity rather than sharing or grumbling or complaining rather than whining.
And the reason that we do this is because it's a really easy link for our kids back to scripture. So what we're helping them to understand is that these are not just our random rules that we've made in are made up. We are ambassadors of God's ultimate authority in their life. And so when we can correct them in a way that links back to what they already know, the scripture says, we are reiterating the fact that this is what God commands us to do, not just what we want them to do. And so for all of us, there's going to be things about this that are easier and harder. And to be really honest to something that I'm not really good at is bringing God into those kind of light moments of the day. And so this is something I have to continually pray for God to grow me in and to really just do more naturally things like who created the squirrel in our backyard? And wow, you know, do you know who made the colors in your picture? But those all those things are great ways to make who God is as creator, as sovereign, uh, just a normal part of our day.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
So what it practically looks like for me maybe is to lead Bible time in the evening. So it's not limited to that, but that's one of the major ways that I can lead my family in, uh, in Deuteronomy six, seven. So what we do is we read through a passage of scripture and talk through it, and then our family sings together before bedtime. So we have begun participating in a hymn of the month program and it's been so great to sing our current him with our children before bedtime, reinforcing rich biblical truths with them as we sing and discuss the lyrics, just praise God together. Um, I also use the opportunity, um, the opportunities that present themselves throughout the evening to direct the children based on God's word rather than my own. Um, my biggest contribution in this and all of ours really is to be first saturated in the word myself.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
This is huge. So I do a morning time. It by default, my morning time starts really early in the morning because I want to be in the word before my kids get up. And I think that's all of our goal in some way because I mean, being in the word is preparation and we're going to be having the day come at us. Now. Some people do quiet time in the evening, but I do it in the morning. We recommend in the morning because it really prepares your heart and your mind to be prepared for the kids. Um, so I, you know, one of the things I try to do if you follow us on Instagram is, you know, encourage other parents to get up and get in. So it's this whole idea, you know, I tried to get up at 5:00 AM, but the truth is, you might not be able to do that, but Hey, pick a place, pick a time, pick a plan, and do something.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
Because, uh, being in the word of God like that is really important because if you're going to do Bible time at night, are you going to do Bible time at breakfast? Whatever it is, you have to be prepared to teach it yourself. So as I'm in, as I am more and more often in the word, I can more easily recall the words of scripture when directing the hearts of my children. We can't teach what we don't know. And it's important to remember why God was giving the command of Deuteronomy six, seven through eight, uh, because he didn't want the next generation to forget. I don't know about you, but out of all the things we say or do in our home, I hope out of everything our children remember scripture the most because if they know who God is, they're more likely to trust him.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
Um, you know, and I think something else that I've been thinking about lately is Proverbs 22 six is one of our favorite verses as parents, you know, we all think train up a child in the way he should go. Even when he is old, he will not depart from it. I think this first comforts us as it should, but most parents, I think, you know, I've been guilty of this as well, tend to focus on the last part. He will not depart from it. And I want to challenge myself and you really to focus on the first part and then take comfort in the second part. We need to train up our children, not just read them. A quick story from a children's Bible once in a while, which I think is very tempting to do because our children gravitate to, you know, kind of that kind of style.
Speaker 3 (11:43):
But we can train them to sit still and to go through Bible time. And I'll talk about that a little bit in a few minutes, some practical tips on how to get started with a nighttime Bible time. Um, but, uh, you know, we need to train our children the application of God's word. What does it say? What does it mean and how should we live in and live in it in the light of what it's saying. Um, and like we were saying, we didn't always take this so seriously, but since God woke us up, I've seen the, the idea of Deuteronomy six, seven in a whole new light. Um, we need to basically what it's saying, you know, sit when we sit in our house, when we walked, by the way, and when we lie down and when we rise all the time.
Absolutely. And just as a quick side note, you know, Charlie and I definitely are not against children's Bibles and books, books that just have folks that have children's Bible stories. But I think what's important is that we need to always look at those tools as a supplement. And we should never trade them out for scripture. Charlie and I are big fans of as early as possible, which is really even in their infancy. You can just read aloud some of your quiet time if they're too little to re-engage, but as early as possible to open up a real chapter in verse Bible and be reading at least a small portion of God's, you know, given written word too.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
What song, where you memorizing today? Were you doing out loud?
Oh, a collagen's one 15 no, Colossians one 15 through 23 solid who Christ is.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Right. So you have been memorizing that with the bigger kids?
Oh yeah. It's like a month already at least.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
And to her surprise, and mine too, all of a sudden our two year old started like wording mouthing words along with it. So I think that we all, you know, even when we say don't underestimate our children, we still do. Right? Because they're so little and we don't really kind of get what's going on in their mind all the time. But I think to the point of the children's Bible, it's just, I generally don't like when we just rely on something else to do a job for us. And, and I, I struggle with this myself, so we're capable of so much more. I think a lot of us are scared of Bible time cause we're like, you know, what do I do? I don't know the answers to all the questions. And again, I'll get to that in a second, but jump in and by default let's bring the word of God to our children and supplement with those things.
Absolutely. Um, so one thing that's going to happen is the more we base our children in scripture and teach them what God's word says, the more easily they are going to spot any hypocrisy in us. For example, if we're exhorting kindness all the time, but there he hear us slandering others when we talk to each other or even not speaking softly to our spouses if we're telling them again and again, they should deny their rights in order to sacrificially love their siblings. But then we're throwing like a grownup fit. When things don't go to plan. They're going to spot that a mile away. We need to as parents, sure that we are regularly praying. Psalm one 39 and 23 and 24 we all love some Psalm one 39 cause it's so comforting about how God never leaves us. He's always with us. He knows us. But at the end there, David asked God to search his heart and show him if there's any grievous way in him and we need to ask God regularly to expose any sins that exist in us so that we might through his strength, repent of that sin and then move forward in obedience.
We want to teach our children that they are never going to be strong enough to uphold God's commandments on their own. Romans seven points out that the law exists to expose our sin, but that rather even we, right? We need Christ's help every day. And so when our kids are disobedient throughout the day, we want to point them back to that foe back to that point. And even be able to come alongside of them and say, Hey, mommy and daddy have to pray for grace for Christ's help too. We need the help of our savior and he can help you too. I mean, he's not their savior yet if they're not saved, but Christ is their only help to even have strength to move forward and not continue in disobedience. So I think it's such an opportunity for us to show them what a gift God has given their parents by sending Christ to be our savior and that that is the same thing that God is extending to them. And we can remind them of that again and again and again. Disobedience should give us opportunities to present the gospel to our children throughout the day because we want to train their hearts, not just their behavior.
Speaker 3 (16:34):
Yeah, that's great. I want to leave you with a few simple takeaways. So if you're still with us here, let's run through some stuff that you literally can take and put into action tomorrow when it comes to Bible time. Because I know I've talked to, I've actually talked to a lot of dads even who, um, they haven't started Bible time because they're, you know, they don't know where to start. So here's a quick, quick start, little tip trick, I dunno, list of things.
Speaker 4 (17:00):
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Speaker 3 (17:26):
Leading a family Bible time at night. Uh, because I know from experience there's this sort of intimidation as a dad when you get to this. So things run through your head like, am I knowledgeable enough to answer questions? What if I don't know enough? Where do I even start? So here are a few thoughts. First, don't overthink it. Sit down. Sit everyone down on the couch, crack open your Bible. Just I guess start an ax. That's an easy place to start and reading a short passage. Once you read, ask the family any questions. I'm amazed at the amazing questions my little kids will ask some second. Have some insights or thought provoking questions to ask the kids. For example, in acts one, you could start by reading through verse 11 one night. You could finish by asking them what they thought happened before this. Of course, trying to lead them to the death and resurrection of Christ.
Speaker 3 (18:13):
You can explain that this is a really amazing time. It's the beginning of the church. What you could relate back to them as, and talk about how they, um, talk about how they go to church because this happened right here. So, you know, when we go to church on Sunday or whenever we go, it's because of what happened right here, uh, in acts one or what happened right before it. And then what's happening here as the church is being formed. Uh, you could also ask a fun question like when Jesus went up into the air, how long do you think the disciples thought it would be until he came back? And then after they answer, explained to them that it's been around 2000 years since then. And then maybe do you guys think that it would ever, they would do kid, we have a newborn.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Do you think that they would ever have imagined that he would, it wouldn't have come back yet. I mean I've thought of that before. Yeah, she's laughing. Ha. Anyway, Bible time. You got it. So third, this is, this is a really amazing time to get your kids excited about how practical and relatable scripture is. So this isn't like sitting them down for some theological study. Like bring it, the Bible is active and living and it's amazing. And, and you know, the way we approach it can really explore that with your children or expose that. So children growing up in a Bible centered home shouldn't be led to believe that the Bible is stuffy, but rather that it's living and active. So going back to the second point, if you're nervous about being the guide, simply spend a few minutes and a commentary or like a study Bible before Bible timing tonight to make sure you understand what you're about to read and teach.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
Um, it's a well known fact that the best way to learn something is to teach it. So you're going to learn so much by leading your kids to whole books of the Bible. I mean, we just got through acts ourselves and it was cool because we said to the kids, we just went through a whole book of the Bible together and there was some really cool questions and stories that came up like the one I just shared with you about, you know, when Jesus was really going up into the air and you know, they were told he's going to return. I don't know if they would have ever imagined it'd be this long. So it's pretty interesting stuff when you get into those dialogues with your children. So lastly, I want to encourage you to just get started. If you get stuck and don't know something to say, just say, Hey, you know what?
Speaker 3 (20:19):
Daddy doesn't know that, so I'm going to go look it up. I'm going to ask my pastor. That also models a sense of humility and the fact that you're always growing. That's really important for them to understand. Honestly, if you'd ever say this statement during Bible time, I'd be a little bit more concerned. There's going to be things you run into that you just don't know. So all that to be said, we do have a product that we think you guys should check out. I'm just gonna plug right here. The choose wisely cards. These are meant to help create these Deuteronomy six, seven moments, six, seven moments all throughout the day. That link will be in the show notes. You know, if you don't have those, go check them out. We'd love to hear what you think.
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Speaker 3 (21:10):
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Speaker 3 (21:23):
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Speaker 3 (21:59):
shepherding a child's heart. I think you said
I was going to just go over it because we have a newborn, but so are they cool. Um, does Ted, Ted is two DS, right? It's a double D double DWP, right? So let's D, T, D, T, R, I, P. P. Ted Tripp, shepherding a child's heart. So good.
Speaker 3 (22:20):
It's not that expensive on Amazon right now. I checked it the other day. It's probably the best investment you could make on Amazon.
So good at just helping you to understand what the Bible is telling us to do as parents.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
I can honestly say this podcast wouldn't be a podcast without that book. Might drop the Mike.
Yeah, we, it's right in front of our face, but if we could drop it, boom. Boom.
Speaker 4 (22:48):
Thank you for joining us on this week's episode of the bear and squirrel podcast. The awesome music you hear was created by Luke peach. We recorded this episode in our sweet little home studio in Meridian, Idaho. Come back next week to hear more about our very real life on this incredible journey in biblical care. Ted, with a newborn.
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