[Field Note] Robbing My Children’s Growth by Complaining
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James 1:1-4 says "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."
In other words, trials are one of the main devices that God uses to sanctify us!
If we complain often in front of our children, then we’re teaching them to despise the most pertinent tool God uses to sanctify us… and eventually them.
If they grow up observing me complain, even about little things, first of all, they will eventually see the hypocrisy in this because of what we read in Philippians 2:14-15 "Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.'
We’re commanded by God not to grumble or dispute, aka complain.
But then we go back to James 1 he says to count it all JOY. Can you imagine the impact we could have on our children if they grew up seeing us modeling this? If everything… all things… were counted as joy.
We’re not going to get this right all the time, but as my pastor says, it’s not about the perfection of our lives, but the direction. Our children need to catch us living out this attitude as the rule, not the exception, giving them something to imitate.
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What do we do when our kids want to be a part of our adult conversations? By helping our children to appropriately respect authority, by showing them their "rank", we can help them to develop a reverence for the ultimate authority of Christ.